Yes, I think you are right. I'm not sure why I'm slipping, other than being so tired from all the changes in my life right now.

Yes, she looked in my phone without asking. I have nothing to hide. I always feel bad after I look in her phone. I'm guessing she felt the same. Someone on these forums called it "pain shopping". You look until you find something you don't like. Yuck. Or on facebook, etc. I try not to do it.

I think I answered your question in another thread. But, she is really good with the kids. The sex is good. She is a genuinely nice person. She can hold an intelligent conversation. I know it must sound doom and gloom, but I only go on this forum for help with my issues. I know the yelling is bad, but I'm sure she feels the tension from me being closed off. I'm sure it agitates her. Not trying to excuse her behavior, but I think if she at least acknowledged my main issue and let me breathe a little, alot her anger would calm down. Unfortunately it just seems to agitate her all the more.