@savme1,
If you are having to defend yourself because you are growing, perhaps it is because those people do not want you to grow. I am well aware of that scenario. If it is subconscious on the part of others, hopefully you are in a position to communicate clearly and calmly with them about your feelings, what you are trying to do, and what vision you have of the future. If so, you have a chance to find the support you need as you grow. If not, you will have to navigate the rough waters, finding ways to nurture your own growth without letting others impede your progress. None of this sounds easy, so I hope you have the support you need around you, and if not, hopefully you can find it here.
Best Wishes!