Frustrated

I am trying to be more thoughtful of others and control what I say. I can't control how someone feels if I don't react in the way they want me to react. Why do I have to defend myself because you can understand that I am growing?

Dear savme1,

I am so sorry you are in distress. Wish I knew what to say that would help!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

@savme1,
If you are having to defend yourself because you are growing, perhaps it is because those people do not want you to grow. I am well aware of that scenario. If it is subconscious on the part of others, hopefully you are in a position to communicate clearly and calmly with them about your feelings, what you are trying to do, and what vision you have of the future. If so, you have a chance to find the support you need as you grow. If not, you will have to navigate the rough waters, finding ways to nurture your own growth without letting others impede your progress. None of this sounds easy, so I hope you have the support you need around you, and if not, hopefully you can find it here.
Best Wishes!

Thank you @StrugglingMama. Your advice is exactly what I needed. I'm in the process of doing both.

You are entitled to your feelings and in some instances entitled to say them, but no one is entitled to be mean or nasty even if they are growing. I am not saying this is you, just a general idea.