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Originally Posted by nottrustin
Rather than jumping ship do you think you would be more beneficial to work on feeling more dependent rather than pushing him completely away and running.
I think many therapists are providing more support right now because my of the supports that clients had in place before COVID are no longer available. They also know the negative impact it is having on the mental health of many people. What of you as your to go back to more his pre Covid ways? Charge you again for emails, limit to 2 sessions a week or whatever us making you uncomfortable.
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See, I would totally agree with that *if* Dr. T were skilled in working with dependency and attachment and transference. I worry that LT "working on" those things with Dr. T will not be productive since he tends to be dismissive (and, IMHO, not super skillfull) when he encounters those issues.
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Originally Posted by elisewin
What would you want him to do really? Keeping his boundaries and for example not giving you extra sessions and reminding you to keep his boundaries? It doesn't seem to work with you, it makes you anxious and thinking that he doesn't care or understand. And you don't respect his boundaries anyway, like you mentioned texting him anyway, even if he said it is his boundary.
But when he is trying to accomodate your needs with many sessions, letting you text etc. you are not happy but accuse him of making you dependant. Also when he doesn't self disclose, you get upset, and when he does, you get upset?
I'm honestly confused if you want him to be more distant with text, appointments and self disclosure or more relaxed and accommondating for your needs and wishes?
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I wonder if LT might feel ambivalent about that herself? I would feel ambivalent in her position--I'd like the need-accommodating because of the closeness and the feeling like Dr. T was making an exception for me because he cares... but I'd also be afraid of the need-accomodating because I'd know that it's important for therapists to hold boundaries, keep a consistent frame, let us practice distress tolerance when we can't get what we need from the therapeutic relationship.
What say you, LT?