[QUOTE=Julielynn1990;6963790]Have Hope

I do think IM going to ask for a divorce. I don't think I can stay with someone I feel like I don't know or trust. I'm going to have to bide my time. I have to start therapy. I may need to see if I will be eligible for SSI since my anxiety makes if difficult to hold a job. I have a credit card in my own name I would like to get paid off or down before I file. We have some money coming in from his jog that could help us get back on our feet financially. I asked him flat out if he wanted to be done today,and he said I don't know...I dont think so. I feel like he doesnt think I will be the one to walk, but I think I am. Im with a strange right now. Im scared as hell but this is something I think i need to do when the time is right. Who knows...maybe he will pull the trigger and stop leading me on.

Lots of hugs to you and thanks for listening. I truly believe we will do the right things for ourselves[/QUOTE

I have my mind made up. I have far too much self respect to put up with abuse.

I would divorce your husband. Don’t try to work it out just because you’re scared. Too many people do that and stay in a bad or broken marriage because they’re too afraid to be alone and stand on their own two feet. It’s not a good reason to stay. I’m trying to overcome my own fears of being alone. I’m scared too..

If your husband respected you, he wouldn’t have had an affair. If you stay, he’ll respect you even less. Get your strength up and file for divorce. I am... as soon as I can and am able to.

Many hugs back. You can do this!!