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Originally Posted by Dltf
He’s not seeing anyone else. That I’m certain of and I’m not going to detail why I believe this. That’s just pure speculation, he prefers to be home watching tv with her most evenings.
Either way, I will have a discussion with him and go over my concerns. Thanks again everyone
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If he prefers to hang out with her most evenings rather than with you, that’s your answer. He is unavailable. Doesn’t matter why he is unavailable. It’s not always other women.
Could be preoccupations with jobs, hobbies, substances, friends etc sometimes seeking unavailable men might be due to upbringing and its subconscious.
I used to get attracted to unavailable men myself, took me a bit to get myself to stop the pattern. You are still young. You can share your concerns with him but if he is unavailable at age 42, it’s unlikely he’ll be available all of a sudden. Plus I think you deserve better. If a man doesn’t prefer you, no amount of talking will change that.
You will meet a man who’ll prefer your company (not saying he should abandon other things in life) but the way you describe this guy he is not relationship material at all.