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Originally Posted by East17
When the sessions have been emotional and really intense, my therapist has said the following to me, at various times over the past few months:
You mean too much to me
You're precious to me
I would love to be your friend
I've grown quite attached a bit, to you
Is this normal behaviour in person centered therapy? Is it genuine or is it just part of a method employed because she wants me to feel cared for and valued by someone. She once asked me if I believed her, did I think she would do that to me (lie about her feelings for me).
On the one hand I don't think she would lie, on the other I can't believe she means it in the way I'm taking it... Perhaps my desire to feel cared about by someone, is making me read more into it than there is.
I don't feel able to ask her about it, because I'd be mortified and embarrassed if she didn't mean it in the way it comes across.
I'd appreciate any opinions on this.
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My opinion is that what she said is weirder than weird! I would maybe let the first statement slide, but the other three....umm....NO. It feels more than unprofessional. It is inappropriate at best. She sounds either immature or manipulative. "You're precious to me". Who says that out loud to a client. Being cared for is great....even though that is not what the therapist is being paid for. Trust yourself...it's weird, really weird.