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Nov 29, 2020, 12:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I am not really labeling him, but instead looking at the scale of how a person can be unwilling to see the other person's perspective or how another person might feel and the other person's "emotional needs".
Perhaps your brother's wife distanced for the same reasons you are distancing right now.
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OE, could you please focus on giving me support instead of trying to analyze and make it okay for my brother to be an abusive person? "Let me speculate all the reasons your brother acts like this so you can understand him" is not helpful right now. His behavior, regardless of what triggers it, are HIS responsibility and he has to own them.
I'm trying to get support for myself and when you focus in on the person hurting me and giving all these excuses for why they hurt me, it's really triggering and does not help. So can we please refocus this to be about supporting me and not excusing him?
Thanks
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