He said that he doesn’t want to be married not because he changed his thinking but because he wanted you to hurt and because he is manipulative. He knew that if he says it to you, you’ll get upset and will continue this marathon. And maybe he even hoped that it would make you want his attention because you feel rejected. It made him feel good. He doesn’t tell you want he thinks, he tells you things that get a reaction and lead to a desirable outcome for him

It’s like you still buying things he is telling you