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Originally Posted by divine1966
He said that he doesn’t want to be married not because he changed his thinking but because he wanted you to hurt and because he is manipulative. He knew that if he says it to you, you’ll get upset and will continue this marathon. And maybe he even hoped that it would make you want his attention because you feel rejected. It made him feel good. He doesn’t tell you want he thinks, he tells you things that get a reaction and lead to a desirable outcome for him
It’s like you still buying things he is telling you
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You're right - I am STILL buying into some things he says. What is wrong with me? Why can't I look at him and everything he says now with total skepticism? It's engrained in me or something to believe him.
That sounds like a very good summary of what actually occurred. My gut feeling says it was another attempt at manipulation - I need to trust my gut!
Luckily, I gave him the opposite reaction than probably what he wanted from me. LOL. Even though I DID get upset, I also told him that I am FAR happier now without him, that I wasted the last 3 years of my life with him, and that he dragged me down in every way.
Probably not what he expected to hear.