Exactly! Abusive people love this logic. They say they wouldn't mind if you did the thing they are doing. Also, it's a bluff because she knows you would never do that even if you could biologically! She wants to keep you to deal with her consequences because she knows you will stay even if she gets pregnant from someone else again. This baby isn't a blessing to her it's a problem and she wants you to fix it. I noticed in your later post you mentioned that you still love her but are not in love with her. Good. That is a step in the direction of self-worth! Your gut is telling you that this isn't right. It's telling you to save yourself! That's the best way to love her is to let her go. She can't help you be a better man even if you raise this child. It won't fix anything.