i partly agree with the other wise and wonderful posters. It does seem like he is not treating you with the due respect and i am So Sorry that you're going through this. i'd suggest to make him understand that you want this Marriage to improve and that you're clearly stressed out about this, at least based on what you wrote here. Suggest couple counseling to him and perhaps even individual therapy if you feel like he needs it. If he refuses or denies there's something to improve i am afraid that there isn't much else you can do. Are there any positive qualities about him that you feel like make him at least somewhat redeemable? Please take care of yourself and everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Sciurid, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!