I had a phone call with my T this morning. She's very proud of me for the emotional control I had yesterday since it really was a major accomushment for me. She also said, my desire to address how the conversation with my daughter overwhelmed me was another accomplishment. Its a step toward having my needs met through open communication. She will email me some information about starting a conversation with my daughter about emotional abuse. Hiding it, not addressing it when it was happening, pretending it didn't matter.... that certainly didn't turn out well for me.

My 15 yo daughter isn't responsible for the triggers created by her father. But I am responsible for making sure my daughter has the tools to stand up to him or anyone else if she needs them. I'm also responsible for making sure other people are aware of my feelings, good and bad because hiding them hasn't worked.

Thank you all for your thoughts and opinions. We all deserve to be heard and have heard what you said.