I don't know how you reacted when your last tdoc said she's not qualified to work with you, but you're far from the only one who has heard such things. I hope you didn't take that as a reflection on you, because it was more a reflection on her. However, in the end it was respectable that the tdoc stated that. Admitting her limitations. Better than seeing someone for a long time who clearly isn't up to snuff.

I remember maybe three or so years ago having to look for a new tdoc. At the time, I was not in crisis. And yet, at the end of the first intake session, she stated "I can't accept you as a client because I feel I'd need a full team to handle your case." I confess that gobsmacked me. It's not like I didn't have a psychiatrist. I did. Once the shock passed (in my car), I started laughing hysterically. What got to me was that I had been clear in my inquiry email what my diagnosis was and that I was on disability. If that, alone, was her cause for rejection, I thought she might have not offered any appointment, rather than charging me for one, needlessly. Truth is, it became apparent that that therapist preferred "lighter" issues and that she regarded bipolar disorder (or at least my flavor) as too challenging...or maybe even scary. And yet, she told me at the end that I was "a very pleasant woman", so it wasn't that I scared her during our one and only meeting. But yes, some therapists aren't able to handle bigger...or different, challenges.

I know some people don't all have access to a large pool of mental health professionals, to choose between. If you do, or in case you might get lucky, you might want to do online research to try to find a better match. I remember Psychology Today: Health, Help, Happiness + Find a Therapist having a good filter tool that pulls special results. Filter options are not just by area, insurance, and such, but even specialization, including bipolar disorder, autism spectrum, anxiety, transgender, and similar. I'm sure some exaggerate when filling in their profiles, but not all. I found five therapists there that I had at least one session with. Three of them turned out to be somewhat to long-term and quite helpful.