What "more" could you have done?! And how can it be your fault?

You upended your whole life to be with him. You have not had an easy time (social isolation, job situation) and he has not been emotionally supportive at all. He sends inappropriate sexual messages, sleeps around, brags about it, lies about it... treats women like pieces of meat in your own words and gives ZERO support when *you* are treated like a piece of meat by other males. He prevents you from exploring new job opportunities.

How can you blame yourself? Should you shut up and take that kind of behaviour with a smile? Is *that* what would make you a good partner??

The only thing you did 'wrong' was stay with him at all and especially for this long. Because it shows you are willing to take any abuse from a partner and be okay with it. And worse, then blaming yourself for your partner's appalling treatment of you.

It is important to own what is yours but not excuse others' behaviours by taking responsibility that is theirs onto your shoulders.