I read this post as being mainly about him. You've made your entire world and life revolve around him., He is running your life. You're not running your own life - it's all about him, his needs, his behaviors, his problems. Where are you in all of this?

And, you are not responsible for his life - he is. It is not your job to make sure he is alive and well - he is an adult, and that's HIS responsibility.

I made my ex fiance homeless - I had to kick him out of the home because of the way he was abusing and mistreating me, on top of his bad alcoholism. He threatened suicide all the time - now, if I had made myself responsible for him, he would have ruined my life. And I wasn't going to allow that.

This guy of yours? He is ruining you and your daughter. You cannot worry about him anymore - you have to save yourselves.

You seem completely wrapped up in all his problems that there is no YOU anymore. Your own needs, opinions, feelings and person are just gone - you have neglected yourself to such a degree that you don't talk about how this is effecting you anymore because it's all about him.

Please leave him. Your daughter is basically pleading with you. To stay with him at this point it totally non sensical.