He sounds a little like my ex fiance. I left him eventually, accompanied with a (further) tirade of stinging insults. But he had said, often, how much he ''loved'' me. My family of origin was neglectful and abusive and I was unsure fully at the time how abusive this person was. I also think that if you marry him he will dish out even more control and abuse. I fully agree - I also think he is in love with the idea of having you to abuse and control (at least the person I used to ''know'' was )

I've also been thinking of therapy again but have felt completely freaked out (again) by the issue of therapy having started exploring it (again) closer to ''home''..