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Originally Posted by eskielover
The thing is that you can care but have other things that become a higher priority. I have/had a friend who I still care about BUT I had a sick horse that had my priority for months & no energy for anything else even after I had to have her put to sleep, I had so many things I had to take care of for months after that. No time to even fit her into my priorities. Sometimes things aren't as mutually exclusive as we think they are. Sometimes paths diverge at times like that & a good time to actually reassess the relationship. Nothing is forever
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We are probably talking about different things. By prioritising I didn't mean having to literally always keep in contact and whatever. But being a priority enough to respect the person and communicate with them honestly. Anyhow we also probably have very different worldviews when it comes to close friendship. Paths just diverge when it comes to buddies, yes, but with close friends I want more communication than that. That's simply part of my value system.
And I don't get what you meant about reassessing the relationship. I wouldn't reassess a close friendship just because of changes in my life right now and here (or changes in their lives). I would be aware that the friendship itself and the other person and my relation to them did not change just because of that. I may have less time and if they ask I'm willing to communicate that, but why reevaluate the entire relationship? Frankly I didn't follow that at all. Feel free to say more, you don't have to, but I'm open to hearing more.