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May 16, 2022, 06:41 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25
Ah Beth, it’s fine, I didn’t take it the wrong way because I feel the exact same way. I know it’s useless I just have to convince my SIL it’s useless and impress upon my brother and my SIL the severity of the situation. I need to stop feeling responsible for my brother’s feelings and trying to protect him and tell him that it is a fire AND health hazard at this point. She literally could die. I don’t think he understands as neither of them have been there since they announced their pregnancy to her (5 years).
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Maybe they don't understand because they don't want to deal with the situation. That's how my sisters were. When my parents divorced I was a little kid and I literally began taking care of my mom. Then, some years later, my stepfather really made a freak show of things. I took care of my mom, in many ways a wonderful woman - but mentally ill, extremely abusive and cruel when she was having an episode, a hoarder, paranoid to the point at which she taped heavy black plastic over all the windows in our (large) house.
Anyway. My sisters, who were a generation older than I was, looked the other way. We'd see them on holidays, sometimes. When I was 38 I broke down, I just couldn't do it alone anymore. So finally, my oldest sister stepped up and at least helped out some of the time.
Ugh, sorry for the rant. The fire issue is so real. I used to worry about it constantly. When I was a kid I'd lie in bed and plan "escape routes" in my mind, just in case.
How old is your mom?
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