As you start seeing the reality you will experience anger. There will be times you will be tempted to call him out more and all you will be doing is poking the bear.

People who depend on drugs tend to have narcissistic traits where they are looking for some way to fill a void in themselves. It can get so they will do anything to fill that void including playing the victim. They often have trouble with employment going from one job to another. When they can’t perform or have things go their way they end up causing problems at work and end up losing their job. From what you share your husband has these patterns that cause problems with his work. Yet he exhibits these same patterns with you.

Can you see this?