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Originally Posted by eskielover
Here is a clue you might want to think about from a guy I dated a few times in college. We didn't have the same values so it was a mutual decision to go separate ways.....but our last conversation was about how he broke up with girls who didn't see it as mutual. Guys (& women) can use this strategy when they have decided not what I want but the other person hasn't gotten the message yet from just plain actions between them.
He told me many times he would just make the girl mad at him & then she is the one who wants to break up. His reason was that it saved a lot of emotional behavior out of the girl since at that point it was her idea. That always stuck with me because I was into observing behavior & could see it in other relationships I was observing. Maybe a rather dysfunctional way of doing it....but his logic was sound (for either party)
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It does happen. Dysfunctional guys don’t like to make arguments so they create a situation where woman finally leaves. Think about it. She keeps calling a guy and sending messages and he ignores her. But she doesn’t give up. Keeps calling. He finally answers and is rude. Now she won’t call anymore. Dysfunctional way to send a message to leave him alone but sadly not uncommon. He had to be direct from the beginning