"Stifle yourself, eh there, Edith?" -- Archie Bunker

I.e., in the olden days, it was men's job to control their property.

LT - you said today here in more than one place that you anticipate what T will say in response to you. Also that you are often disappointed in his responses. When exactly do you do this? Are there long pauses when you guys talk? Or do you come in with a pre-rehearsed script? Or is this all after the fact. I just cant imagine any scenario where i would even WANT my t to say something specific, let alone remember what it was, in the moment. Like you kinda set him up to say overreacting, while hoping he wouldnt say it? That seems like a dishonest transaction, at the very least. Like playing a rigged chess game. What would it prove?