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Jun 12, 2022, 04:15 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
Many of us are in therapy because we have trouble relating to others, feeling secure in relationship, understanding our attachment needs, how to self-soothe, what comfort means, etc. If we knew how to negotiate our needs amongst relational dilemmas I don't think we would be in need of therapy. Whether the driving trips/gift leaving pushes against the therapist's boundaries is a question for the therapist, not the client. If the therapist is bothered by it, they need to address their boundary. What is informing the client's need (and how any resulting tension between therapist and client is resolved) is far more important than the drive/gift leaving itself.
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So wisely stated! Yes. Everything you've pointed out is absolutely the truth, what more can I say. This experience should be fodder for my therapeutic work. And my guess is that M. will want to use it that way. The problem is that we'll just get into the work - and she'll be out again. Me: fifty times burned, finally shy.
Obviously, M. has a chronic health condition. But while I was born in the afternoon, it wasn't yesterday afternoon...my own life experience tells me that were we to look back 20 years, M. was finding reasons even then to skip work. i.e., from what I've experienced, her management skills and organizational skills are less than fab, plus she's rather a "delicate snowflake" of a person.
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