If he loves you or not, his behaviour is undesirable and unreasonable, judging from what you have shared with us here. The verbal affirmation of love is not love, if you do not feel loved then it just isn’t love. Desire, need, lust, fear, many feelings wear the cloak of love to hide their true nature.
Love is never weaponized. That is usually the work of insecurity.
I hope it helps that the members here agree that your recent actions are warranted, and your feelings are absolutely reasonable and valid.