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Originally Posted by Aurelius710
This is the kind of man who has inserted himself into both me and my mom's affairs. I absolutely want 1 on 1 time with my mother (and I'm sure she does too), but my dad's as much involved (to my chagrin) in my affairs as hers. If I did an end run around him and picked my mom up for an afternoon out, my dad would not be above doing something drastic to try and spite me or her, possibly both of us.
An objectively unstable man with a relative amount of power who no one will bring to account.    |
Almost on cue, I get more crap from him. He called relaying a message from my cousin, a man who may not have the drastic mood swings of my father, but definitely has the man's codependency issues.
My cousin called my dad to let him know I was forgiven (presumably for not wanting to talk to him) and he had some frozen meat to give.
"Cousin forgives you and Cousin provides for you. I don't know why you're so ungrateful."
Number one, plenty of reasons. Number two, that is both Cousin and Father's logic here, with Father purposely ignoring the many, many times I made my displeasure about Cousin known.
There's swallowing your pride and there's debasing yourself. Being cajoled by a spiteful man into (essentially) apologizing to a codependent man for the sin of not calling him in exchange for food seems to fit the latter. No hamburger patty is worth that!