There's so many different things going on with my family dynamic, I don't know where to start!

My car is often included in my dad's rants about the house. I "trash" it just like I "trash" everything else. Car's fine. It's clean. I have no issues with it, performance wise. CDs. His issue is with a small box of CDs I have in the back seat that I use for... well, music. He has taken my refusal to remove that box on his command personally, threatened to disown me over it and/or threatened to call potential employers (the ones I made the mistake of telling him about) to "warn" them of my "trashiness."

My father's moods swing wildly, from Father Christmas levels of generosity to "Everyone, even my own family, is against me." levels of paranoia to legit OCD levels of cleanliness obsession to

To give you an idea of how fast this man's moods shift, my father decided, because of some crackers (seriously), to leave my mom and never come back. He was gone 8 hours before returning without a word.

This is the kind of man who has inserted himself into both me and my mom's affairs. I absolutely want 1 on 1 time with my mother (and I'm sure she does too), but my dad's as much involved (to my chagrin) in my affairs as hers. If I did an end run around him and picked my mom up for an afternoon out, my dad would not be above doing something drastic to try and spite me or her, possibly both of us.

An objectively unstable man with a relative amount of power who no one will bring to account.