Yes I can relate to the part where my dad also brings up things about people from the past that I donot want anything to do in my present life.If I am physically present my parents love to talk about those faux sons or daughters and like to put them on a pedestal while I am listening. As if they want me to listen and sulk.Real cheap tricks.Some of their so called faux sons tried to do real harm to me.Those are the ones my parents love to talk about. I am the one ruminating a lot about past events.I know....I know,past cannot be changed,but it cannot be erased completely either.I am working on processing my past and the grief it heaped upon me.