This is a really good point and something my current therapist has mentioned before. He said it can come up, for example, in cases where a former drug addict is treating a current one, how they can think their path to sobriety is the only one and what the client needs to follow. When that isn't the case.

My former marriage counselor had some similar issues to mine, like an anxiety disorder (plus some father issues), and I wonder at times if that's part of what ultimately caused some problems between us. Like maybe I reminded him too much of himself. It did seem sometimes like he was almost critical of my anxiety, perhaps in the sense of "I managed to work with it, so why can't you?"

Oh, I would agree with that, as a parent of a special needs child. I mean, she recently has caused some issues at school (after not doing so before). But a former friend, who was childless, used to teach special needs kids, and she was often very critical of my parenting. Saying things like we let our D rule the house. But she didn't know what it was actually like. That, for example, we had to pick our battles, or else home life would be a nightmare much of the time. Plus kids often hold it together at school, then fall apart at home.