Tumbling down my scores, I have a tiny positive value as an Avoider.
Thoughts: just too unpleasant, this will take care of itself, if I generate open conflict I'll lose connection, I'd rather give way than create a scene. Excuse maker.
Collect your "nos." Get a lot. Old salespeople technique.
Keep fears of the "not right words, not right time, not right way" at bay.
Remedies: Turn down this voice: Big deep breaths, calm the nervous system, "you're going to get through this. It's not the end of the world." Somewhere we're still innocent kids. Anchors for calm, focus, courage, bold. Hold a crystal, rock, charm, card. Sage: Search for the gift in the negative situation. What did you learn about the ~ease~ of what was avoided. Absorb criticism or feedback as a gift (block the avoider from avoiding the input).
Sage Activate: Anticipate that Avoider will be showing up, do the PQ exercises preemptively.