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nothemama8 said:
Nah, Tomi just ask him how long he's been married to Jerry so you can get it right, then then put a roses stem where it counts

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">LMAO Nothemama! I suspect that would shut him down right away.

SM - My sister had a problem with a man at work who called her names and put her down for no apparent reason. It always caught her off guard and hurt her feelings, so she was too consumed to think of a response in order to protect herself.

The next time he yelled at her, she stood her ground and refused to show any fear or pain. She glared directly into his eyes and asked him calmly "Why are you so mean to me?" - then held her gaze on him until he answered. He answered truthfully. He didn't like the sound of her voice (said it was too loud and "shrill").

My sis and I had a good laugh over that one - blamed it on mom, lol. My sister had to endure years of opera lessons at mom's insistance, and she was programmed to belt it out. When her emotions are running high or if she's very passionate about something, the volume automatically goes up.

My sis and that man were able to work it out. She explained her voice training and agreed to try her best to keep a check on her volume. So far, that man has been very courteous towards her - even when she's loud.