You aren’t a failure. Sitting in traffic going to karaoke bar and doing small talk with strangers sounds even more unappealing than row machine. I am fairly social and am not like stuck in a mud or something, but watching sunset and making jewelry sounds way better. I don’t know about you but I am so tired on Friday nights and I commute an hour one way. There is only that much I can do after work. I don’t know who are these people going out after work. I can barely make it home. They might have much easier jobs. Don’t be hard on yourself