I am a Failure

I was supposed to go be social tonight, and I didn’t. I was going to go to a karaoke bar on the other side of town… I had planned to go, and initially I had wanted to go. But later this afternoon, as i was watching the sun set behind the mountains from my condo and it was gorgeous, being here with my cat and making jewelry out of some gorgeous Czech beads I recently bought, the idea of me waiting in gruesome traffic to go somewhere only to have to make small talk with a bunch of strangers simply didn’t seem appealing. So that is a fail on one of my resolutions. I haven’t used my rowing machine at all this week because I can’t get past how unbelievably boring it is. Of course, there are many, many other types of workouts I could do if I had any self-discipline whatsoever… but I simply don’t want to. Workouts suck and the people who do them suck even more. Sorry, but that has been my experience many times. As for showing compassion, I really am trying, and I think I’ve been pretty patient with people at work this past week. But it’s been a long, rough week for sure. I feel like a terrible person for failing at my resolutions. Ugh.

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You aren’t a failure. Sitting in traffic going to karaoke bar and doing small talk with strangers sounds even more unappealing than row machine. I am fairly social and am not like stuck in a mud or something, but watching sunset and making jewelry sounds way better. I don’t know about you but I am so tired on Friday nights and I commute an hour one way. There is only that much I can do after work. I don’t know who are these people going out after work. I can barely make it home. They might have much easier jobs. Don’t be hard on yourself

Definitely don’t be hard on yourself, I’m not a big fan of NY resolutions, they seem so all or nothing and winter is not a good time to pile on expectations on yourself imo.

Guess what, my exercise bike is doubling as a coat stand lol, it needs to get together with your rowing machine

This is good news! Congratulations! Well done.

How did you do it--how did you help yourself to be more patient with people at work?

Thanks for the kudos Bill— honestly, looking back, I think it was just a case of emotionally distancing myself from the situation.

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Maybe this is a practical way/technique to have more patience with people at work?

Possibly the only way/technique, in my case… 🫤

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That's okay! 😊 Having found one way is an excellent step forward!

Maybe you only need one way...

I think emotional distance from situations at work sounds like a healthy strategy. It doesn’t mean you don’t care.

Words are powerful. YOU aren't a failure.....perhaps something you have done, or do might have failed.