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Old Jan 21, 2023, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Get busy.

Idle time is a sure way to hook up with wrong people and going back to exes. Be actively busy with job search. Be busy with other people and other groups. No not bars you could run into your ex. Other places. Go see your mom. Go volunteer. Every time I went for a wrong dude was when I had too much time doing nothing. Don’t have time to entertain thoughts about ex.

How is he love bombing? Why isn’t he blocked?

Now we can only say what we think. We can’t stop you from going back to him but you’ll be breaking up again a year from now in the same boat. Or maybe 5 years. Or 10. You want to go through this in your 60s? 70s? It’s not going to be happily ever after. Just too much drama. It’s not healthy to keep breaking up and divorcing and going back. The fact that it’s even happening should be a sign. It’s just no good. If it was good, you’d not be divorcing
Thank you! Your last paragraph is precisely what I needed to hear right now. I just need these reminders and for that same message to be engrained in my brain!!!

He is blocked. His email is now filtered to trash. He hasn't written to me since yesterday, so I am referring to recent previous emails from him.
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