Hey there it's your friend Samicat (Lauryn). I'm still getting used to the format of this forum but I found your thread. I'm so sorry... I didn't realize how lonely you are. You tend to sound upbeat (I do too even when I'm down) and i figured you had your indie music friends. Please, call me anytime. Unfortunately I'm up with insomnia tonight so I probably won't get up until 11AM my time but I would love to talk to you in the next few days. My weekend is clear.

Stay strong in keeping him out of your life as much as possible. You're almost there. But I do understand how hard it is when you've lost your job and don't have a lot of friends who live close by.

p.s. It made me angry that he is getting an inheritance but hasn't offered to pay you bad the FULL amount of the chair, with no strings attached. I may be wrong but it seems to me like you shouldered more of the expenses when the two of you were together, thus he should be paying the debt with his inheritance.

As you know, my husband Simon has a disability and I have supported him for years at a time. That's okay and I love him, but if we got divorced and he suddenly got an inheritance i would feel like he should pay at least half of any debt incurred while we were together. I mean it may not be worth trying to force the issue legally, but it might be worth pointing out if that debt you are carrying is partly or all his. But don't accept anything from him that has strings attached obviously.


You may want to try Meetup for things like sporting groups, board games, art or writing groups, bird watching or whatever interests you. I've had luck in my small town. At least it's a way to keep occupied and meet new people locally. Anyway, ,more later. Take care, my friend. You have a kind heart and you need to protect yourself.