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Jun 17, 2023, 10:18 AM
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Desert Kitty hates titles
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: TARDIS
Posts: 12,524
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Originally Posted by jesyka
Maybe I’m to honest & direct for most people. I’ve noticed that a lot of people tend to b.s & say things that they don’t mean. Like let’s get together again or I’ll think about it & then you never hear from them again or they never give you a direct answer to whatever they were ‘thinking about’ instead of saying not interested directly. It seems like most people are afraid to say the word no or not interested which is ridiculous!
It seems like almost no one wants to tell you no or be honest with most things. It’s ridiculous. I don’t understand why that is. I definitely don’t understand why some people think it’s better to say yes to something they know they’ll say no to later. It makes no sense to me at all.
It’s rude & disrespectful behaviour. It seems like other people expect me to be a mind reader, lol 😆 Then they act like I’m the problem when I don’t understand what the hell they were trying to tell me indirectly, lol 😆
Whatever! Ugh! Most people suck! I give up on even trying anymore! It’s to annoying & stressful!
I don’t like meetup btw. I almost always get ignored. It’s cliquey & meetups get cancelled often too. I even got kicked out of a few meetups for no paticular reason. Even ones I didn’t attend! Wth? lol 😆
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I think I am too. Gosh I still remember when I was 10 or so and someone complained to the teacher about me being too honest or something. That was 50 years ago at least, I've been mellowed since then lol. But still don't beat about the bush.
I admit at one time I couldn't say no, but I was much younger, a kid or at least in my teens. It's no trouble now.  I asked an acquaintance if she'd mind texting now and then (I'm so sick of only getting scam texts, though I didn't tell her this. I didn't want to be accused of being "needy").
She said talking on the phone once a week works okay and she gets so many work related messages. I appreciated her honesty, even if it's disappointing. It's better than saying yes and not responding to my messages. And this is someone who started calling me in 2020, as a volunteer to isolated seniors at home. And she still wanted to keep talking, even after they ended the program. I wish it was more often but I'm glad she's talking to me at all. She's the only one. I never met her.
Thanks for your opinion on MeetUp. I'm not pushing this on you or anyone; I just wanted to hear what anyone's experiences have been, if they tried it. It gets so much hype. I read so many negative reviews, but then again everyone may not have posted their experience. The tech thing makes me anxious, as it doesn't always work the way it should. Like you said if you don't get the notice of a cancellation or they change location at the last minute or something. I did read how some people got kicked out too. I think the odds are not in my favor. And it's a LOT to go through for those odds. Some groups want a photo. Wtf? Why should that matter, what do I look like?? To recognize me?
I've looked at just plain book clubs since I like to read, but the ones that are local don't say where they meet. I probably have to log in to see that. Also I'm afraid I'll get the same bs in the senior center book club, where the same people dominate the discussion. Or they go off on tangents that have nothing to do with the book! That's why I come there. I know "nothing ventured, nothing gained" but right now I'm out of gas. (To use the analogy of a car out of gas. It won't run.) 
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