I see your point. I do try to be understanding & tolerant, but sometimes people push my paitience to the breaking point.

Example, talking excessively about themselves all the time. Maybe some of them are embarrassed to mention that they can’t afford to go out that much.

I don’t expect people to go to expensive places iften. Most of the places I choose are affordable. Example, the movie place I like to go to has $7.50 matinees. It’s $6 sometimes.

I don’t go to fancy 5 star restaurants. I have suggested going for walks or for frozen yogurt. I’m aware that most people I know don’t have much money to spend.

As for the beach trip, that was my friends idea. If she can’t afford to go out, then she should not even suggest such a thing.

I also expect people to go out with me every werk. I suggest getting together once every two to three weeks or once a month.

It seems like most people can go months with no contact though.

I don’t dislike my friends. I’m just frustrated & annoyed by some of their behavior like them being indirect, not giving me a yes or no answer to things at times, etc.

Am I expecting to much for wanting them to put in more of an effort to be reliable & respectful? I don’t demand that they hang out with me too btw. I don’t invite people out that often.

I just asked a few people to intiate plans more often as I felt like the friendship was one sided & I felt like I was bugging them by being the one intiating everything most of the time.

I have needs & I spoke up to get those needs met. It did work when I did that. Sometimes people are unaware of their behavior & how it affects other people