Hope many of us have been around the block and then some, so I can’t in a good conscience tell you that you should keep seeing this guy in private. Maybe I exaggerate but you often say how wonderful these men are after just few dates. I did the same thing myself! So it’s not criticism but a reality.

He might be a kindred spirit but you also have to remember that men who (possibly) capable of mistreating women often have lots of charisma and do/say things that get women all excited. That’s how they get women to entertain them alone and trust them very fast. So what you feel that he is a kindred spirit and so much fun could be just your attraction (even if not romantic) to unhealthy men. There are ton of good and fun men out there who don’t have these kind of scary stories about them

Joining him at music event is ok. Seeing alone probably not