There is a type of person that insists on being “the princess”. Everything is about them and their needs and they are very high maintenance. If this person is not coddled the way they want they literally threaten to discard as though others are privileged to be privy to their drama.

This individual will even claim to have “special powers” which is strange because they are also very needy and constantly claim to be a powerless victim. It’s all about their needs and their boundaries and you don’t get to have feelings and boundaries.

It’s painful to see how a good hearted person can get caught up in their toxic web and want to love and be loved but they are waisting their time because they are dealing with a disordered person that doesn’t really see or love them.

Add to that a problem with alcohol and drug abuse and this makes things even more toxic.

When someone loves a toxic person it really takes time to slowly help them see all the toxic aspects of the relationship. Often the victim becomes very committed thinking there must be something they can do to change the toxic dynamic. After all there are times when the victim is thanked and even praised. But this is ONLY to keep the feed going for the “princess”.

Truth is everyone suffers if the “princess” doesn’t get her way. Your wife had discarded you a long time ago. She was just playing and using you getting ready to completely discard you.
This kind of disordered person prefers to discard yet at the same time likes to think you would run back and service her if she wishes. The PRINCESS always needs to have this sense of POWER.

If they feel they lost power, they will lash out and have temper tantrums and meltdowns. Actually, your lawyer knows this and is advising you to stay calm and be the good man and dad you are.

Know there is no actual love lost as the princess type is too selfish for that. That is even worse if they abuse alcohol or drugs.