Thanks, Lost. It also felt like he was more concerned about my relationship with R than how I'm doing right now. I though that was possibly why he was calling, like, "OK, I have a few minutes, let me give you a bit of support." Or at least part of why. But it didn't feel like it.

It feels like he's jealous of her, in a way. Now the conversation we had a week or two about my attachment to her makes more sense. Where I said I felt like I had almost an aunt-like transference toward her. He said, "Shouldn't it be a sister? She's younger than you." Yeah, by 3 years? It's not like she's 20 years younger. Maybe he's bothered by my feeling attachment toward her, and that's why he's wanting to change things now? I don't know.

What sucks is if I leave him, I couldn't see her anymore either, I don't think. He said at one point that she wouldn't be willing to take me on as a regular client if I left him. Because it would be disrespectful to him, or something like that. How it would harm their relationship. But shouldn't he want me to get good care and support? Whether occasionally if I want a consult/he's not available (which in fact is the case tomorrow) or longer term?