I had been seeing my therapist for ages not sure how many years. I really got along well with her and then I got a bit stuck and I didn’t know what to do. I last saw her in October last year but recently I have started seeing a new therapist and this therapist is a male which is different from what I usually do but he specialises in trauma and I think that he is a much better fit for what I need. Anyway, I asked my old therapist when would be an ok time to see her again outside of the therapy room. I’m not asking her to be friends with me. I just want to be able to see her again and this has been huge for me to swap over to a new therapist. She said that I can’t see her again. I would have just liked to see her to share how things are with my children and life, like having another child and small updates that are not therapy related. I feel really devastated.

The first therapist I ever saw made me wait for a year before being able to talk to me outside of therapy. We didn’t catch up very often and I haven’t seen her for years. I don’t understand why one therapist can do this and one can’t.