((((((((((((( Silversparrow )))))))))))))))

I can so understand how you are feeling about your friend. It is sad and scary to know that a dear one has gone down a very bad path and is hurting himself.

Please know that when a person gets into alcohol and drugs, their minds begin to misfire and they don't think properly anymore. All of a sudden, instead of living a good and healthy life, they are now living for the next drink and/or drug. That's the only thing that really matters from there on out...........until..............they grab hold of themselves and reach out for help.

I would have no doubt that he truly does care for you. But right now, he is wrapped up in his warped little world and the real and true things are just a memory in his mind. I'm sure he doesn't mean to lie to you about getting together....I'll bet he really wants to do that, but the other things get in his way and he is unable to pull from it and go back to his normal lifestyle at this time.

You seem to have a good relationship with his mom. Is there any way you can sit down and talk with her about your thoughts? Does she have any idea what her son is up to now? Maybe together you can both do some kind of intervention with him? Sometimes people need the extra help from loved ones to see what is wrong and to find the help they need to get back on track. Please know, that even if you can do an intervention, it may not work. It really depends on how dependent he is on the alcohol and drugs and where his mindset is at this time.

It sounds to me that if he is messaging you on Facebook, he is trying to hold onto some normalcy and to know that you still care about him. Maybe it's his way of reaching out to you and hoping you reach back to help him?

I hope you can get some conversation going with him and with his mom. I also hope you can find some peace and understanding along the way. I wish you both well!


sabby