((((((((((( selfy )))))))))))))))

There are a couple of things that strike me about your post. One is that for some reason you equate someone needing your help to fix things as defining your worth both to whoever it is looking for help and how you look at yourself.

Do you feel that no one in your life defines your worth beyond what help you can give to them? Do folks in your life actually treat you in that way? Do you look at yourself as being worthless if you can not jump in and save someone?

Your worth as a human being goes far beyond what you can do for another. Do you have friends/family in your life that enjoy your company because of your big heart, your great sense of humor, your intelligence, your peacefulness, and the list can go on and on.

There is also the thought that you may be hiding behind the help you want to give others, consistently giving yourself away, never saving enough of you for you. Are you possibly hiding behind your need to help others so that you don't have to face your own needs and fixing things that you deem are issues with yourself?

I think you will find answers to this problem when you take some time to do some introspective work on you. Find out what makes you tick and what you need to help yourself with When you have been able to help yourself, you can then continue to help others. When you figure out that your worth should not be measured by what you can do for others, you will feel better.

If others in your life truly do measure your worth by what you can do for them, then maybe it's time to think about whether they are taking advantage of you and if you wish to find another group of folks to associate with, ones who value you for who you are inside and not what you can do or fix for them.


sabby