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Originally Posted by _sabby_
There is also the thought that you may be hiding behind the help you want to give others, consistently giving yourself away, never saving enough of you for you. Are you possibly hiding behind your need to help others so that you don't have to face your own needs and fixing things that you deem are issues with yourself?
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In my life, I'm the "fixer". I fix everyone. That's what I do. Alcoholic? I'll help you stop you drinking. Lonely? I make sure you're ok. And on and on. I enjoy helping others. It's something I know I'm good at. I think that's why I was so offended and felt abandoned when my didn't want me around to help with her aunt's cancer. However, the above comment made me stop in my tracks. That's me. When I'm helping others, I don't have to concentrate
on my depression. I can focus on helping others and then, what do you know? No time left for me. So you are definately not alone in feeling like if you aren't fixing things for others then you're abandomed and whatnot.
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