My ONLY reason for suggesting the PM is to not reinforce the negative interpretations -- that's what we're trying to talk Angelgirl OUT of doing. I think in almost any other thread, minority opinions are welcome and encouraged. In fact, I appreciate it when other people give me food for thought, and I myself tend to post sometimes unpopular opinions but I feel that other perspectives need to be voiced. It was just this particular issue -- it served to validate Angelgirl's fear of rejection, which is NOT what I wanted to do at all.