One way that got me so I trusted T more and didn't worry so much about what she thought was to picture her sitting beside me, like a friend, instead of across from me (like a teacher or judge, etc.). When I imagined T that way, like she was "on my side" then it got easier to talk about the touch stuff.

My husband is good about that; whenever I'm critisizing him or having a hard time letting him help me with something, he'll exclaim, "We're on the same team! We're on the same side!" When you get used to looking at most people as "against" or different from one is, it gets hard to remember that some are truly trying to help. Figuring that out about T was really helpful to me when she couldn't be helpful! That she wanted to be, was trying, I could give her "credit" for that and take comfort in her intense listening, even when she didn't say/do anything that seemed to be helping.