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Jan 09, 2009, 10:23 PM
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Member Since: Jan 2009
Location: Chicago
Posts: 10
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Originally Posted by Kendyll
Good news!!!
 
Something I'm thinking about, something I'd like...I'd like to include his alters in the ceremony somehow. They ARE part of this relationship, and I want everyone to know that I accept them - individually AND as part of the system. I would just like to say before God and "everybody" (all two of us) that I choose this man, in all his ways, to spend the rest of my life with. We've talked about it a little before. He hadn't thought about it. He hasn't ever been in a relationship where his DID was "OK".
Now that the whole marriage thing has come up this time for real, I'd like to follow up on this. |
Just a thought, but maybe you could do the marriage planning (not the day, but what it’s going to be like being married) as a gift to all the alters. Maybe you are doing this already. More than likely some parts are going to be happier or less confused than others. But, to be conscious of this process might help to minimize the negative and maximize the positive. Some brides have all kinds of bridesmaids, but you’ve got a lot more to work with in creating your all special day and life with as few creases as possible. I would think that be a very special gift to each other. We’re really big on pulling together ideas or polling, like in creating a “Wedding journal or plan of events” Like pictures of how your hair is going to be, or of finding a special pen to sign the certificates. So much to do for EVERYone! And, for the likely part who is going to want to couch sit … maybe a special sandwich and a pickle ~~ all part of the plan!
One way or another Good Luck! I’m happy to know there are people as nice as you to consider the bigger picture.
You encourage!
Ann’s
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