Don't take it personal, ND. It very seldom is. Besides, you're not the kind of person that would impose on anyone. You are very caring. I know from experience. Your complaints and hurts are legitimate and you're working at improving your life. What could be better than that? Can't think of anything.
Not knowing if your friend is dead or alive is yet another thing. The only thing you can do is pray for her and find peace in that, ok?
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Psalm 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.