with respect, Lenny (and I don't know what your program is), this strikes me more than a little like blaming the victim.

Those who have trauma in their past, whether a single event like an assault, or 15 years of child abuse, would give anything to feel part of humanity. It's not "special", it hurts a lot. A LOT!!!!! the universe has been proven to these people to be very different from what it should be: not safe. And other people not what they were taught other people should be; not safe - not even their own parents sometimes. And themselves not as they'd been taught they "should be"; not self determiniing, but helpless in the face of violence, whether to body or feelings or both.

With the passage of time, and good therapy, the universe and people MAY begin to resume some kind of normalcy; but as far as it being a matter of the victim deciding that they are not "special", that the universe doesn't revolve around them - sorry, no sale.