(((((LLT, earthmama, Sannah))))))
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Originally Posted by lifelesstraveled
Whatever I want i can get it myself.
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It is too bad I can't triple bold that sentence. Seriously. That could be my motto. "Don't worry about me...I'll figure it out on my own" , or a personal fav "suck it up and deal with it". It is angering to me that even when I am doing something that looks like reaching out I can undermine myself and my so called progress anyway...
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Originally Posted by earthmama
My T is very clear that if I want a call back, he will absolutely call me back, no question about it, BUT I have to clearly state that I need a call back. If I say "don't call" he won't call.
T has called me ONCE in 16 months when I didn't ask for a call back....he said he was calling to confirm our appointment time (which was a little confusing), but I think he was using that as an excuse to check on me, because once the appt time was confirmed, he quickly moved on to figuring out if I was okay.
Can you give yourself permission to call and ask for a call back? It's okay to change your mind, you know  |
Thanks Earthmama! So far our "rules" for getting a call back have been the same as yours...If I want a call back I need to say I want a call back, which I have thus far done. The thing is I always want a call back. Up until this point I have also said that and gotten called back. Apparently when I say I don't want a call back I am lying through my pretty white teeth. It is a good thing to learn.
Yeah, I don't know if I could call and ask for a call back. Maybe that is the next step...Figuring out how to let myself change my mind. I am probably going to make myself suck it up and deal with it until Monday's session.
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Originally Posted by Sannah
Yeah, I think that it is good for everyone to learn to speak up for what they need. Mind reading shouldn't be an option..........
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I agree with you here Sannah. T does not have to be a mind reader. She needs a magic 8 ball to figure out what it is that I need though...Or maybe I need to use the magic 8 ball before I call her to figure out what I need...
Is there a psychotherapy themed magic 8 ball? That would be pretty funny....