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Old Mar 12, 2009, 12:30 PM
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Mouse's thread about reaching out got me thinking about my own experience with reaching out and getting or not getting what it was I was looking for....

Things have been good in T lately. No bumps or misunderstandings. Lots of connectedness actually, in the last two weeks I have had three sessions and a phone session. I have been in a rough way with all of the things I am sorting through internally and I have quit my job to go to another one which has created a lot of emotional upheaval as well. But T has been a grounding place, a place to sort things out and feel stability.

Then this week I did more concious unearthing- I met with my brother to talk about our childhood (this would be another thread on it's own and more suited for the survivor forum) something that I discussed with T before hand. I called T on Tuesday after I had met with my brother, just to check-in. I wanted to let her know a little of what had transpired but didn't really want to process or want her to call me back and I stated that in my message to her.

However, now I am feeling disappointed (or something?!?) that she didn't call back...Even just to acknowledge me calling. Which is completely ridiculous because I said "you don't need to call me back". And truly when I called I had no interest in processing through anything. I intentionally called at a time when I knew I could leave a message.

I am wondering though if I set her up to be a bad guy or I set myself up to feel some really old feelings of not being worth letting someone care for me.

After thinking on it more it feels like both. My feeling this way creates that nagging voice in my mind of: "She doesn't care...See she didn't even call you back and this was a huge move on your part..."

It also creates old feelings of not being worthwhile, not being of value, of not getting my needs met, of being abandoned and neglected.

And I feel a bit angry at myself too. Why can't I just be straightforward? Why do I have no clue what I need? I feel like I unconsciously created this so I could feel bad and feel distance after all this closeness.

Anyone ever feel this way? Or catch themself in the middle or after of something like this and figure out how to stop it?

Just more grist for the mill right?
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Old Mar 12, 2009, 12:33 PM
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We do create our own reality with what we do. Our actions do shape what transpires. It sounds like at that time you didn't want her to call you? Being conscious of all of this is really good. I'll bet last year you wouldn't have been aware of all of these little things?
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We do create our own reality with what we do. Our actions do shape what transpires. It sounds like at that time you didn't want her to call you? Being conscious of all of this is really good. I'll bet last year you wouldn't have been aware of all of these little things?
Thanks Sannah!

I was trying to think of what I would have been like a year ago...I was only going to T every other week, I was rescheduling half of those sessions, I was not talking about anything of this magnitude...I would NEVER have called her just to check in... Interesting to look back and see how different things can be in a year.

I certainly am more aware of myself and what goes on for me internally...These internal scenarios that get created...
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Mouse's thread about reaching out got me thinking about my own experience with reaching out and getting or not getting what it was I was looking for....

Things have been good in T lately. No bumps or misunderstandings. Lots of connectedness actually, in the last two weeks I have had three sessions and a phone session. I have been in a rough way with all of the things I am sorting through internally and I have quit my job to go to another one which has created a lot of emotional upheaval as well. But T has been a grounding place, a place to sort things out and feel stability.

Then this week I did more concious unearthing- I met with my brother to talk about our childhood (this would be another thread on it's own and more suited for the survivor forum) something that I discussed with T before hand. I called T on Tuesday after I had met with my brother, just to check-in. I wanted to let her know a little of what had transpired but didn't really want to process or want her to call me back and I stated that in my message to her.

However, now I am feeling disappointed (or something?!?) that she didn't call back...Even just to acknowledge me calling. Which is completely ridiculous because I said "you don't need to call me back". And truly when I called I had no interest in processing through anything. I intentionally called at a time when I knew I could leave a message.

I am wondering though if I set her up to be a bad guy or I set myself up to feel some really old feelings of not being worth letting someone care for me.

After thinking on it more it feels like both. My feeling this way creates that nagging voice in my mind of: "She doesn't care...See she didn't even call you back and this was a huge move on your part..."

It also creates old feelings of not being worthwhile, not being of value, of not getting my needs met, of being abandoned and neglected.

And I feel a bit angry at myself too. Why can't I just be straightforward? Why do I have no clue what I need? I feel like I unconsciously created this so I could feel bad and feel distance after all this closeness.

Anyone ever feel this way? Or catch themself in the middle or after of something like this and figure out how to stop it?

Just more grist for the mill right?
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I did the same thing with T once. I called her and cancelled after she made me angry and scared me during a session and told her not to call me back. I intentionally called at a time when i knew i could leave a message. After I left the message. I was really hoping she'd call back (even though I told her not too). She did end up calling back, but that was first to make sure it was me because there are two of us with the same name. but she said she wanted to call back anyways despite needing the confirmation (she already knew it was me) to check on me. I honestly think I wouldve been disappointed if T didnt call me back. then I woulda thought she didn't care about why I was cancelling the following weeks appointment--esp since it was no more than 24 hour after I scheduled it, which wouldve gotten me more angry.

I think you really did want T to call back. One, you called when you knew you would be able to leave a voicemail ( i did that same thing). two, "no need to call back" means "I want you to call me back" (at least for me anyways) and if you don't I am going to be pissed with you--LOL. That's what i was thinking when I left the message for my T. I am not quite sure how to stop it though. I think the only way to stop it is to speak up for what you want and be clear about it. Maybe T thought your message was crystal clear...No need to call back and she took it at face value? I havent gotten to that point yet where i can just be up front about what i want from someone. For me it's soooo hard to tell anyone what i want. even if its something as simple as a gift. I usually will just say nothing. Whatever I want i can get it myself.
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My T is very clear that if I want a call back, he will absolutely call me back, no question about it, BUT I have to clearly state that I need a call back. If I say "don't call" he won't call. I know that this is probably partly for his own sanity (he can't read the minds of everyone who calls and figure out if they *really* don't want a call or if they are just saying that), and partly to teach me that I can get my needs met, and it's okay, but I have to be honest and straightforward about what those needs are.

T has called me ONCE in 16 months when I didn't ask for a call back....he said he was calling to confirm our appointment time (which was a little confusing), but I think he was using that as an excuse to check on me, because once the appt time was confirmed, he quickly moved on to figuring out if I was okay (I wasn't, and I'm sure that was clear in my "no need to call back" message). I thought it was interesting that he made the call about the appointment time...I'm guessing it was because he wanted to call to check on me, but didn't want to change the boundary of "I won't call unless you ask for a call back". That was a really unusual situation though, and only happened once in dozens and dozens (maybe hundreds!) of phone messages during our work together.

I remember once when we had a phone check-in set up for a Sunday. The Friday before, he had wanted to hospitalize me and I refused, so we set up a phone call. He didn't call when he said he would (at 2) and even though I knew that he was definitely going to call when he could, I didn't want to sit around and wait, so I called him and left a message saying not to call, that I didn't really need to talk to him.

In session the next day, he said he had a hard time figuring out what to do. He asked himself "if this was my sister, or my daughter, would I still call?"...but the thing is, I am NOT his sister or daughter, I am his therapy client. I was actually surprised he even went there in his head. Anyhow, he didn't call.

There have been times I have left a message and said I didn't need a call back...but then later, realized that I really DID need a call. So, I called back and told him just that- I thought I didn't need a call, but I did, and would he please call. And he did.

(((((((((((((((((((((Searching))))))))))))))))))))))) It's good that you are recognizing and looking at your feelings around this. It will be something to learn from, and something to process with your T. And if you still really want to talk to her before your session, can you give yourself permission to call and ask for a call back? It's okay to change your mind, you know

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Old Mar 12, 2009, 08:10 PM
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Yeah, I think that it is good for everyone to learn to speak up for what they need. Mind reading shouldn't be an option..........
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Whatever I want i can get it myself.
It is too bad I can't triple bold that sentence. Seriously. That could be my motto. "Don't worry about me...I'll figure it out on my own" , or a personal fav "suck it up and deal with it". It is angering to me that even when I am doing something that looks like reaching out I can undermine myself and my so called progress anyway...

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My T is very clear that if I want a call back, he will absolutely call me back, no question about it, BUT I have to clearly state that I need a call back. If I say "don't call" he won't call.

T has called me ONCE in 16 months when I didn't ask for a call back....he said he was calling to confirm our appointment time (which was a little confusing), but I think he was using that as an excuse to check on me, because once the appt time was confirmed, he quickly moved on to figuring out if I was okay.

Can you give yourself permission to call and ask for a call back? It's okay to change your mind, you know
Thanks Earthmama! So far our "rules" for getting a call back have been the same as yours...If I want a call back I need to say I want a call back, which I have thus far done. The thing is I always want a call back. Up until this point I have also said that and gotten called back. Apparently when I say I don't want a call back I am lying through my pretty white teeth. It is a good thing to learn.

Yeah, I don't know if I could call and ask for a call back. Maybe that is the next step...Figuring out how to let myself change my mind. I am probably going to make myself suck it up and deal with it until Monday's session.

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Yeah, I think that it is good for everyone to learn to speak up for what they need. Mind reading shouldn't be an option..........
I agree with you here Sannah. T does not have to be a mind reader. She needs a magic 8 ball to figure out what it is that I need though...Or maybe I need to use the magic 8 ball before I call her to figure out what I need...

Is there a psychotherapy themed magic 8 ball? That would be pretty funny....
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Old Mar 12, 2009, 09:54 PM
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I found one!

http://www.amazon.com/Freuds-Therapy.../dp/B000R820QC

I think this was posted in this forum before- Maybe by Pinksoil?

I also think I just hijacked my own thread...And now I am responding to myself...Where's my Freud 8 ball when I need it.....
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Actually there is a psychotherapy themed magic 8 ball look here

OFFICE PLAYGROUND DR. FREUD'S THERAPY BALL

My T would laugh at it, now if I could just get the courage to give it to him.
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you found one!!!

I am trying to keep the compulsive shopper in me from buying it!
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I'm sorry you're struggling with these feelings! When I read your post, it seemed notable to me that this incident of feeling "not worthwhile" and "not of any value" happened right after you'd had a discussion with your brother about your childhood. When you think back to your childhood, was this a prominent feeling you had about yourself? That your parents did not really care about you, and what you wanted or needed did not matter? If so, then talking with your brother about your past most likely brought up a whole host of these "yucky" feelings of being worthless and unimportant. It would make perfect sense, then, that if you called t afterward and did not get a reply, those feelings of being not important and not cared about might arise in connection with your t, even if you did not ask for a call back.

Babies and very young children can't always say what they need. So it's very important for a parent to be attentive to their baby or child, to notice their signals. To realize when their child is distressed or needs something. Then to respond. When that doesn't happen, the baby or child begins to feel "Nobody cares. I do not matter." If this happened with you as a child with your parents, then maybe a small part of you hopes that t will know you well enough and care enough to know what you need and provide it . . .to read your signals, so to speak, without you having to ask for it. Then, if nothing happens, all the old "I'm not important. I'm neglected. Nobody cares" feelings arise all over again, just like when you were little.

Your statement here is a big insight:

I am wondering though if . . . I set myself up to feel some really old feelings of not being worth letting someone care for me.

If those feelings of unimportance and neglect are coming up in connection with t not calling you back, there is probably a need for you and t to explore more fully where those feelings first originated. I know this is a painful area. But the fact that you felt compelled to talk to your brother about your childhood may show that you are ready to take a closer look at where those abandonment feelings first occurred. The fact that you wanted to reach out to t after talking with your brother about this is a good thing. You want t's help to deal with all of this. I'm sorry that not getting a return call brought up all those old painful feelings. Sometimes it helps to know where they are coming from, and to realize that even if t could not read your mind and know you needed a call back, it does not mean you are "not worthwhile" or that she has "rejected and abandoned" you.
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Good point Peaches, so this wanting T to read the mind is sort of starting at square one in this development area then isn't it? This makes perfect sense to me. I strongly believe in step-wise development and not skipping steps.........
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Yes, that's what I was thinking too. Since we never had a parent so attuned to our needs who would respond when we could not tell them what we needed. . .we still desperately want to experience that developmental step of feeling connected enough with someone to trust that they can and will respond to our non-verbal cues.
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Why can't I just be straightforward? Why do I have no clue what I need?

Anyone ever feel this way? Or catch themself in the middle or after of something like this and figure out how to stop it?
Those are such great questions and yes, I have been there too, and still often am. Especially about not having a clue what I need. It took a long time in therapy to discover that. To learn to listen to my innards and ferret out what I might be needing. I am much better at it now, but still work at it all the time.

Yes, there are times I have caught myself in the middle of doing something and been able to stop myself. But this came after a year or more in therapy. Once I started telling T a lie, in session, and caught myself mid-lie, and suddenly just said, "no that's not true, what happened was..." T didn't bat an eye. I have also learned not to "make nice" when I don't feel that way, or say, "oh that doesn't matter," when it really does. T says this is being more authentic--having what you present to the outside world more in sync with your inside world--the real you. I remember one time T and I were riding the elevator to his office together and he said he had been really worried about me because of our last session (which was very volatile). In the past, I might have been embarrassed for my behavior at the session, but not any more. In that session, I had been feeling angry, upset, volatile, and I let T see that. AFter all, why not? He is the therapist, he is supposed to hear that stuff. So I was really proud, in the elevator, that I didn't respond to his comments about our last session with a lame apology, such as, "oh, yeah, sorry about that last time." Instead all I said was, "last time was really intense." I was so proud of not apologizing for that session! That doesn't seem like much, but it is big progress for me not to minimize my feelings and not to always feel like I have to smooth things over.

So, yeah, searchingmysoul, keep going towards figuring out what you need. That is a totally, totally important goal.

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he said he was calling to confirm our appointment time (which was a little confusing), but I think he was using that as an excuse to check on me
That is such a sweet story, EM.
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I'm sorry you're struggling with these feelings! When I read your post, it seemed notable to me that this incident of feeling "not worthwhile" and "not of any value" happened right after you'd had a discussion with your brother about your childhood. When you think back to your childhood, was this a prominent feeling you had about yourself? That your parents did not really care about you, and what you wanted or needed did not matter? If so, then talking with your brother about your past most likely brought up a whole host of these "yucky" feelings of being worthless and unimportant. It would make perfect sense, then, that if you called t afterward and did not get a reply, those feelings of being not important and not cared about might arise in connection with your t, even if you did not ask for a call back.

Babies and very young children can't always say what they need. So it's very important for a parent to be attentive to their baby or child, to notice their signals. To realize when their child is distressed or needs something. Then to respond. When that doesn't happen, the baby or child begins to feel "Nobody cares.
Thanks Peaches!

What you are saying makes a lot of sense to me. The reason I didn't want a call back at the time was because I need a lot of time to sort through my feelings. A LOT of time. This I do know about myself. So trying to talk at the time I called would have been full of barriers because of how long I take to emotionally process. I was suprised at my reaction that I posted about though. I do think you right in two ways I did want to be checked on in a "developmental" sort of way- like a parent anticipating a childs needs and the feelings that I felt from not being checked on were a recreation of very old childhood feelings. I also think this unconscious set up was an after effect of the conversation with my brother but my feelings after that convo were different. It is also an old thing to want to make the world against me so that I have to work everything out on my own... Which is what I did in that situation too... I really appreciate your insights in this...Thank you.


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Once I started telling T a lie, in session, and caught myself mid-lie, and suddenly just said, "no that's not true, what happened was..." T didn't bat an eye. I have also learned not to "make nice" when I don't feel that way, or say, "oh that doesn't matter," when it really does. T says this is being more authentic--having what you present to the outside world more in sync with your inside world--the real you. I remember one time T and I were riding the elevator to his office together and he said he had been really worried about me because of our last session (which was very volatile). In the past, I might have been embarrassed for my behavior at the session, but not any more. In that session, I had been feeling angry, upset, volatile, and I let T see that. AFter all, why not? He is the therapist, he is supposed to hear that stuff. So I was really proud, in the elevator, that I didn't respond to his comments about our last session with a lame apology, such as, "oh, yeah, sorry about that last time." Instead all I said was, "last time was really intense." I was so proud of not apologizing for that session! That doesn't seem like much, but it is big progress for me not to minimize my feelings and not to always feel like I have to smooth things over.
Sunrise- you have said so many great things here- I bolded the part about authenticity because I said once that I want to be "congruent". That I want to match my inside to my outside and that what I say and do is true to myself. I have not been able to catch myself in session being incongruent yet. But I am able to think over it after and go to the next session and reflect on the places where I have not been authentic or told the truth or minimized. I guess I will be working on doing things more in the moment. Thanks Sunny!
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I've absolutely done this.
But what I notice is that in the moment I'm saying 'its fine, I dont need acknowledgement', it really does feel like thats true.
Then soon afterwards ........whoops!! into the black hole...

Would this be because when you're IN the moment of communication, it feels abundant BECAUSE at that moment you're in communication? - no abandonment issues at that time.

(......... I also think this is paralel with a developmental stage - the baby stage where its pre-learning to have a continuity of security....... )

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oh, I just read the above and saw I'm sort of repeating what already been said....
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I've absolutely done this.
But what I notice is that in the moment I'm saying 'its fine, I dont need acknowledgement', it really does feel like thats true.
Then soon afterwards ........whoops!! into the black hole...

Would this be because when you're IN the moment of communication, it feels abundant BECAUSE at that moment you're in communication? - no abandonment issues at that time.

(......... I also think this is paralel with a developmental stage - the baby stage where its pre-learning to have a continuity of security....... )

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oh, I just read the above and saw I'm sort of repeating what already been said....

Thanks Riv!!

Everything that you said is helpful. Thanks for your experience too. The bolded part is very true for me... It is funny what gets created....
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I have done all of the above in yours and EM's posts, including calling back when I first said I didn't need a return call. I think that Peaches had good insight into infancy needs being met or unmet . Those patterns become what we are accustomed to so in a way, we might just be repeating (unconsciously) those things which "feel right." (This can be even when we "know" they aren't right.) So many times what I know intellectually doesn't match what I feel. It's really hard work to sort out that knot.

I think your noticing is awesome. You are healing!
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It is also an old thing to want to make the world against me so that I have to work everything out on my own...
This is a good insight into yourself. Do you want to keep talking about this here? I am really curious about this (and maybe it will help you understand it too?)
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